tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7331767878988124949.post4036487760658885679..comments2023-10-17T01:07:14.627-07:00Comments on The Chronicles of My Three Peanuts: Discipline vs. PunishmentNicolehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08459414445021468183noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7331767878988124949.post-11672489706745646542009-03-25T18:12:00.000-07:002009-03-25T18:12:00.000-07:00I just have to say that I agree with you completel...I just have to say that I agree with you completely, especially about how hard it is to discipline positively. I took a parenting class and one of the many things I learned is that my goal as a parent should be to help my child learn to deal with their emotions appropriately. <BR/><BR/>Often times kids are misbehaving because they lack the vocabulary or knowledge on how to deal with what they are feeling. By helping them understand what they are feeling and how they can express it correctly you give them tools that will help them throughout their whole life. <BR/><BR/>It seems to me that when parents discipline their children with negative consequences the only thing they are really teaching them is to be compliant. I would much rather have a child that can tell me what is bothering them than just listen to me because they are afraid of what I will do to them.<BR/><BR/>It is really hard though to make the changes necessary to becoming a more effective parent. I find myself falling back into old habits so quickly, it is easier to yell than to sit down and try to calmly work through things. <BR/><BR/>I am hoping by the time she is ready to leave the house I will have it all figured out.MJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04164185987757417934noreply@blogger.com